My husband and I are currently in the adoption process for a child or a sibling group.
It's been A LOT (which I'm sure is preparing us for A LOT MORE!!) and by 'a lot' I mean that we've spent the last two years studying* not only to be parents, but also to be child psychologists, attachment specialists and tantrum-whisperers. During this intense process, you can't help but evaluate your own life as you sympathise and empathise with the stories of birth parents, their children, social workers, foster parents and other adoptive parents.
I've fully jumped into the process and have been exploring the deep feelings that have been coming up with regards to my own childhood C-PTSD. Specifically, I'm paying attention to connecting with and soothing my inner child, which is seeking a lot of attention ...understandably so! I'm hoping that by doing this, not only can I help myself love and grow and understand these feelings, but that I can also model self-care and self-love to my child or children-to-be.
For example, on days when our intensive** 3-hour-deep-dive meetings have focused on me and my childhood, I've made sure that I've had some soothing Lush bath bombs on hand, as well as simple and nutritious comfort food ready to go, so that I can calm my nervous system, feel safe, loved and present. I was so excited to realise that I was doing the things that I recommend to all my AstroGeo clients! Then I started thinking about how I can cater to my specific Astrological make-up more nuanced way and if that would indeed prove to be a more specialised tool.
So here was my thought process:
PLANET: MOON. Planet of inner emotions and emotional processing. Inner child. Subconscious.
POSITION: SAGITTARIUS. Sign of adventure, curiosity and truth.
HOUSE: 1st. House of the body and identity.
RESULT: To best support my emotional evolution and explore my inner child, I can experiment with finding the different ways my body feels soothed. Eg. Dry brushing before a hot shower, swimming in the sea on a cold day, playing on a jungle-gym, going for a bike ride just for fun, walking around and exploring a new town...
The point is to do give myself permission to try something physically stimulating and different from the usual, just for the fun of it!
(I'll let you know how it goes AND I'm so excited to try this in the future with my children-to-be!)
If you're up for experimenting with me, here are some suggestions of how you may self-soothe and connect with your inner child:
Your Moon is in:
ARIES: The Sign of instinct, passion, spontaneity.
TAURUS: The Sign of sensuality, practicality, our physical world.
GEMINI: The Sign of socialising, information and transformation.
CANCER: The Sign of emotions, intuition and affection.
LEO: The Sign of play, self-expression and independence.
VIRGO: The Sign of details, self-improvement and service.
LIBRA: The Sign of relationships, style and creative flair.
SCORPIO: The Sign of transformation, evolution and the subconscious.
SAGITTARIUS: The Sign of adventure, curiosity and truth.
CAPRICORN: The Sign of solitude, clarity and resourcefulness.
AQUARIUS: The Sign of inspiration, fearlessness and collectivity
PISCES: The Sign of spirituality, imagination and emotion.
Your Moon is in the:
1st HOUSE: The House of the physical body, appearance and identity.
2nd HOUSE: The House of money, material possessions and self esteem.
3rd HOUSE: The House of day-to-day communication, short-term journeys and siblings.
4th HOUSE: The House of family, generational patterns and psychological feelings of 'home'.
5th HOUSE: The House of children, creativity, play and romance (flirting).
6th HOUSE: The House of health and fitness, service and pets.
7th HOUSE: The House of one-to-one relationships, contracts and partnerships.
8th HOUSE: The House of merging with finances and resources, sex and intimacy, and rebirth.
9th HOUSE: The House of curiosity, higher learning, spirituality and travel.
10th HOUSE: The House of career, fame and status.
11th HOUSE: The House of humanitarianism, hopes and dreams, and ambition.
12th HOUSE: The House of intuition, psychic ability and subconscious processing.
I'm so curious to know what you think of this experiment, what are your 'results'??????????? What you are planning on doing? and of course, I'm curious to know how you FELT once you tried things out! Please let me know in the comments below or get in touch via email.
Three cheers for your inner child!
*We've been part of numerous compulsory training events, read a multitude of books and articles, listened to podcasts, and watched many webinars with behaviour specialists as well as foster parents and adopters.
**I have to find a wider variety of words to explain the INTENSITY of our feelings!